We wake up in the morning, walk into the kitchen and thanks to a timer we have a pot of hot coffee waiting for us. We pop a frozen waffle into the microwave and in about 1 minute we have breakfast. We race to work where computers help us get our jobs done faster. At noon, we drive through and pick up lunch in less than 5 minutes without ever getting out of the car. We don’t have to wait until we get back to the office to start making phone calls, we just pick our mobile phones and start talking.
After work, we pick our children and take them straight to soccer practice. On the way, our children do their homework in the car. While our children are practicing their soccer techniques, we pull out the laptop and connect to the internet to check our email. After practice, we race home and pull out a ready made meal from the refrigerator for dinner. We scarf down our food and then sit down to relax in front of the television. A remote allows us to change channels every few minutes and thanks to Tivo we can skip commercials and watch 3 hours of television in about 1.5 hours.
Everything about our lives is fast and furious. It is more than a busy life; it is a fast and furiously busy life.
Intimacy takes time and cannot be rushed! We don’t have time to talk to our spouses for more than 5 minutes. We don’t have time for sex and foreplay. Many husbands and wives struggle to squeeze a conversation between activities. Some people claim they talk more to their spouse on the mobile phone than in person.
It is difficult to slow down in the midst of our fast paced lives. We rush everything and everyone. How many times do parents tell their children to “hurry up!” Likewise, many couples rush through intimate opportunities and deny each other the time needed to build intimacy. Living fast and busy lives often creates barriers to building intimacy with a spouse.